I'm Just Anneke

A family accepts their gender nonconforming child just as they are.
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11 mins
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Anneke is 12. She loves ice hockey and is a hardcore tomboy. Everybody who meets her assumes she's a boy, but she's not sure if she wants to be a girl, a boy, or something in-between when she grows up.

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The film shows how familial, social, and medical support can make all the difference in the lives of gender non-conforming youth. I show I'm Just in Anneke in my Law and Gender Identity and Expression course to underscore the diversity of experiences of gender and to illustrate the efficacy of non-coercive, compassionate responses.
David B. Cruz
Professor of Law, University of Southern California Gould School of Law, Constitutional law and sex, gender, and sexual orientation expert.


Anneke is 12. She loves ice hockey and has a loving, close-knit family. She’s also a hardcore tomboy. Everybody who meets her assumes she’s a boy. That makes puberty even harder for her than most girls.

Anneke’s not sure if she wants to be a girl, a boy, or something in-between when she grows up. To give her more time to decide, her doctor has put her on a medication that will suppress the hormones that are causing her body to change before she’s ready.

Even though she’s been rejected by her friends and struggles with depression and suicidal thoughts, Anneke is determined to be her true self. To do that she’s decided to maintain a fluid gender identity—she wants to make sure her insides matches her outsides. I’m Just Anneke looks into the heart of a new generation of children who don't always fit into a binary conception of gender.

I'm Just Anneke is one of four films in the Youth & Gender Media Project, which together demonstrate how to reach every member of a school community—students, teachers, parents and administrators—to help them create educational settings that welcome all young people, regardless of the where they fall on the spectrum of gender identity and expression.

Purchase all four films for the price of three at: https://www.NewDay.com/film/youth-and-gender-media-project.


Jonathan Skurnik's short films revolve around kids who don't conform to conventional gender roles. I'm Just Anneke focuses on 12-year-old Anneke, who lives in Vancouver and has felt like a boy for as long as she can remember. She plays hockey on a girls' team, dresses like a boy, and feels free to chart her own path, since her parents have never put any pressure on her. But her mother, Nicole, says that Anneke suffered from depression when she was 4 and reportedly experienced suicidal thoughts at age 5. Now her doctor has her on the puberty-suppressant medication Lupron until she determines her gender (he's also prescribed Prozac and Ambien). Nicole believes that Anneke is happier than before, and that she's having better luck making friends (interestingly, they're all female). Anneke and Nicole also appear in the second offering, The Family Journey: Raising Gender Nonconforming Children, in which parents and siblings of children in transition relate their experiences. Maria Jose and Pam, for instance, talk about boys who longed to wear dresses, and Jeannine relates the hostile reactions to her son's going to school in girls' attire. All of the adults found acceptance of their children's differences difficult but necessary, with one saying You have to get over yourself, and get over your own fear. In dealing with the reactions of other children, however, one interviewee suggests that kids take their cues from adults—when parents and teachers show acceptance, other students will fall in line. Recommended.
Video Librarian
These short documentaries created by award-winning producer and director Jonathan Skurnik would be excellent additions to collections in transgender studies, parenting, and child development. I'm Just Anneke (11 min.) and The Family Journey (14 min.) present an enthusiastic argument for acceptance and unconditional love of gender nonconforming children. These documentaries are especially welcome now, as parents of younger and younger children openly engage with issues of sexual orientation and gender identity.I'm Just Anneke succeeds because it doesn't try to generalize Anneke's experiences or those of her family. It is simply a portrait of one 12-year-old who has dealt with depression since she was 4, social rejection since she was 10, and has just started a course of medication to suppress the hormones of adolescence. Her parents are unapologetically accepting of their child (I don't really get parents who don't accept their kids), and the filmmaker shows that they want to parent the whole child, not just focus on her gender identity: her mother says simply The more we've dealt with… in a positive way the gender stuff, the better her mood has gotten. The high point of this film is Anneke just being twelve and playing hockey, but she also has an opportunity to speak for herself. Anneke says she's in the middle of thinking about who I am, which might be said for many 12-year-olds. The Family Journey is a series of interviews with mothers, fathers, siblings, and Anneke, designed to encourage families to accept their gender nonconforming children. These families took varying paths of varying lengths to acceptance. Some recognized their child's gender variance very early, and some have arranged programs in their child's school to teach teachers and classmates about gender nonconforming children. The variety of gender identities in their children is a particular strength her—not all of their children have transitioned or intend to transition, and some say that transitioning isn't necessarily the issue. As one mother says, changing the binary gender system of these two strict boxes will benefit everyone.The reduced price for non-profits and home video makes it easy to recommend this DVD for all types of libraries as well as non-profit organizations and individuals. Highly Recommended
Educational Media Reviews Online
I'm Just Anneke and The Family Journey, the first two short documentary films in the Youth and Gender Media Project exemplify key sociological concepts such as gender fluidity, adolescent development, and parenting nonconforming youth. I'm Just Anneke, winner of the Changemaker Award (2010), chronicles the path of a 12-year-old youth from Vancouver, British Columbia, for whom the onset of puberty has sparked a gender self-identity crisis. Much of Anneke's gender fluid exploration occurs within the social context of the family, peers, school, and community. Despite external constraints, Anneke is resolved to be true to herself and maintain a gender fluid identity that matches what she feels on the inside. The film raises multiple considerations concerning the complexities of parenting a gender nonconforming adolescent. The Family Journey provides intimate narratives from interviews with parents and siblings of gender fluid youth and teenagers. It is organized around three themes: challenges, acceptance, and celebration. Within this segment, family members detail the varying emotional consequences of grappling with gender ambiguity, practicing skillful parenting, and fostering supportive family and community dynamics. The film is consistently effective in engaging viewers and leads to provocative questioning around gender fluidity and social support systems. I'm Just Anneke and The Family Journey could be put to good use in courses examining gender, sexuality, family, body and embodiment, sociology of children, health and social behavior, and introductory sociology, as well as youth and society. Though due to the wide variety of topics explored, these uses are not exhaustive. We focus next on how the films can effectively illustrate three significant sociological themes for teaching undergraduate students. They are gender fluidity, adolescent development, and parenting. First, the films are superb and tangible examples of gender fluidity. Given the institutionalization of the binary gender order, this concept may be difficult for many undergraduate students to understand. Anneke's story offers a stark contrast of how gender is expressed along a continuum: For example, Anneke states that gay, lesbian, and trans do not fit. She sees herself as somewhere in the middle. Anneke's mother states that she wants her child to be true to who she sees herself as being...gender fluid. These two quotes highlight the empowerment of Anneke's choice regarding self-identification as gender fluid. Second, previous literature documents adolescence as a time period characterized by trying on and expressing identity. However, the case of Anneke illustrates that when adolescent development involves exploring gender identity along a continuum, pedagogical tools are sorely lacking (see Wentling et al. [2008] and Davis [2005] for exceptions). One of the unique contributions of these films is that they provide a point of reference for teaching about gender ambiguity and its consequences as part of the developmental process. For example, peer acceptance is a critical component of adolescent development necessary for healthy adjustment. Anneke's struggles suggest a heightened vulnerability to chronic social rejection of peers who govern social interaction around gender. While the pressures of acceptance and inclusion for youth are germane to adolescent development, Anneke is symbolic of a new generation of young people who face greater distress navigating the journey of gender self-identity, presented identity, and perceived identity (see Lucal 1999:784) while simultaneously striving for peer acceptance.Finally, the films raise key issues for parenting in the twenty-first century, which is arguably already formidable. For parents of children in transition, is gender identification necessary for skillful parenting? How will parents prepare gender nonconforming youth for the daily stressors of rejection as well as for the emotional vicissitudes at school and home? The films do not offer oversimplified solutions. Rather, parents share experiences, strength and hope. First, parents reveal that it is difficult to parent skillfully without a point of reference. For example, one parent affirms: I didn't even know how to look on the internet, if I wanted to do an internet search, showing the daunting task of parenting without adequate resources. Second, parents indicate that raising a gender fluid youth requires a significant investment of time and energy, There is a lot of work to get everything lined up to make this transition as successful as it possibly can be. Third, parents may face isolation and rejection within neighborhood, extended family, and community, as illustrated by one mother of a child in transition, it's you against the rest of the world. While the films do not fully explore the long-term consequences regarding gender fluidity, adolescent development, and parenting a nonconforming youth across the life course, they do an extraordinary job of introducing these concepts. I'm Just Anneke and The Family Journey address topics that are under-explored and socially emergent. One of their distinct contributions is providing of a point of reference for parents and educators who lack a knowledge base regarding youth in transition. Further, they equip viewers with vocabulary, real life experiences, and eye-opening insights to enrich teaching any undergraduate course in sociology.
Teaching Sociology
It'd be easy to feel sorry for Anneke: She's a 12-year-old girl who was diagnosed with depression at age 4, and who has always had trouble making friends. Oh, and she's uncertain about her gender identity and is taking Lupron, a drug that suppresses the hormones of adolescence, in order to buy some time as she decides whether to stay female or transition to male. I just want to stay how I am right now, she says. A tomboy sort of thing. She can't stay a tomboy forever, but you almost forget her challenges when you encounter her supportive family. Her mother, concerned about winning the approval of others all her life, views her daughter with awe: She lives the consequences of not fitting in. For Anneke's father, raising her is the best of both worlds: People sometimes ask me, 'You've got two girls, think you'll try for a son?' I've got a son—I've got Anneke. Just like its title character, I'm Just Anneke is winning, inspiring, and insightful.
Washington City Paper
In an interesting pairing with Regretters, Jonathan Skurnik's I'm Just Anneke packs a lot of punch into 11 minutes. Pre-teen Anneke is biologically a girl, but has serious doubts whether this is correct. Supported by unbelievably understanding parents, Anneke is undergoing hormone therapy treatments to suppress her physical development until she is sure of her gender. Following Anneke from the mundane (hockey practice and hanging out with friends) to the necessary (visits to the hospital for treatment), Skurnik captures Anneke's wonderful personality on film, and shows that a little parental understanding and love can really change a child's life. It's amazing to watch Anneke struggle with the same questions as Orlando and Mikael, and her composure and maturity proves that she is truly a remarkable person.
Washington Metro Weekly
I'm Just Anneke was the most hopeful short in the whole screening. This documentary told the story of Anneke, a 12-year-old girl who dresses like a boy, but isn't sure whether or not she's ready to transition or if it's even necessary. Anneke is truly an inspiration with her upbeat, self-loving attitude, although the film does explain that it took a while for her to be comfortable with herself. Her family is also truly beautiful to behold, showing her nothing but love and support throughout her growth. My main concern is for Anneke to be happy, her father says, creating a sound bite many parents could stand to hear. Anneke's friends also had a brief moment in the film in which they explain that Anneke's gender doesn't matter to them—they like her regardless. I'm Just Anneke is such a refreshing, uplifting piece, and many can learn from what this film has to offer.
Twelve-year-old Anneke's favorite sport is ice hockey, where she plays on an all-girl team. Here, as well as in many areas of her life, she is often mistaken for a boy, but, as Anneke puts it, I'm not 'that guy' ... I'm a girl. This gender ambiguity has been clear to her parents since she was very young and refused to wear a dress. However, both parents state emphatically that they accept Anneke the way she is.The question of gender identification at puberty is the subject of this independently produced video, which explores Anneke's hormone management with medications and her own determination to continue to be a tomboy like I am now. In the past, this attitude has cost her friendships at school, where she wasn't always accepted. But her Mom sees improvement in her social skills with treatments for headaches and depression. Both parents hope that Anneke will remain true to herself, rather than striving to fit in. It will be a shock if she grows up and puts on a dress, says her Dad. Anneke and her parents are refreshingly frank about the situation in this video, and the viewer sees her as she is, cheerfully interacting with classmates and teammates, a seemingly well-adjusted female child who, indeed, looks like a boy. I'm Just Anneke is the first film in a four-part series of short films called The Youth and Gender Media Project designed to educate school communities about transgender and gender nonconforming youth. It won the tenth annual Media That Matters Film Festival Changemaker Award.
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Awards and Screenings

Critics Award, Sebastopol Film Festival, 2011
Outfest, Audience Award for Outstanding Achievement in Short Documentary Film, 2010
Change Maker Award, Media That Matters Film Fest, 2010

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