The Youth and Gender Media Project consists of four short films that capture the diversity and complexity of gender nonconforming youth. These award-winning films provide students and educators with unique tools to explore critical questions about gender identity and family acceptance, and are ideal for discussions about bullying and inclusiveness. When you purchase this package of four DVDs, you get 25% off the price of purchasing the four films individually.

Jonathan Skurnik's film series on gender fluidity raised an overwhelming interest across the CLU campus, drawing in students from our undergraduate as well as our graduate programs. The films poignantly and genuinely represented the multifaceted world of gender fluid children and their families, exposing our students to fascinating and generally underrepresented perspectives and prompting a discourse on the topic of gender fluidity, particularly its presence in schools.

Elmira Tadayon, Cal Lutheran’s Center for Equality and Justice
Synopsis: 

Becoming Johanna tells the story of a sixteen-year-old transgender Latina living in Los Angeles who is kicked out of school for using the girls bathroom, then forced out of her home when her religious, immigrant mother refuses to accept her transition to a young woman. Through her fierce determination and boundless resilience, Johanna finds a foster family who loves her and a supportive school principal who helps her to graduate and thrive.

Creating Gender Inclusive Schools provides a behind-the-scenes look at a public elementary school that trains their entire school community—students, teachers, parents and staff—about gender, inclusivity, stereotyping, and bullying. Told primarily through the voices of students and teachers, the film demonstrates that it’s not only possible, but that it’s downright fun, to train an entire public elementary school community to be inclusive of transgender and gender expansive youth.

I'm Just Anneke is a portrait of a 12-year-old girl who loves ice hockey and has a loving, close-knit family. Anneke is also a hardcore tomboy and everybody she meets assumes she's a boy. The onset of puberty has created an identity crisis for Anneke. Does she want to be a boy or a girl when she grows up, or something in between? To give her more time to make a decision, her doctor has put her on Lupron, a hormone blocker that temporarily delays the hormones of adolescence. Despite rejection by her friends and struggles with suicidal depression, Anneke is determined to be true to herself and maintain a gender fluid identity that matches what she feels on the inside. I'm Just Anneke takes us into the heart of a new generation of children who are intuitively questioning the binary gender paradigm.

The Family Journey: Raising Gender Nonconforming Children charts the emotional and intellectual transformations parents and siblings must make in order to successfully nurture their gender nonconforming family members. In frank, vulnerable interviews, families from all over the country speak about the power of love and acceptance to help their unusual children thrive. They also come to realize that loving a gender nonconforming child, in the face of ignorance and sometimes hostility, has turned them into more compassionate human beings.

Our films introduce profoundly new concepts, like the idea that even a young child can be transgender and the new and still rare use of hormone blockers to delay puberty. Universal themes like family acceptance, being true to one’s self, coming of age, the power of community, and the importance of tolerance and love make these films accessible and deeply moving, even to people who may be resistant to the idea of transgender youth.

Reviews

Jonathan Skurnik’s short films revolve around kids who don’t conform to conventional gender roles. I’m Just Anneke focuses on 12-year-old Anneke, who lives in Vancouver and has felt like a boy for as long as she can remember. She plays hockey on a girls’ team, dresses like a boy, and feels free to chart her own path, since her parents have never put any pressure on her. But her mother, Nicole, says that Anneke suffered from depression when she was 4 and reportedly experienced suicidal thoughts at age 5. Now her doctor has her on the puberty-suppressant medication Lupron until she determines her gender (he’s also prescribed Prozac and Ambien). Nicole believes that Anneke is happier than before, and that she’s having better luck making friends (interestingly, they’re all female). Anneke and Nicole also appear in the second offering, The Family Journey: Raising Gender Nonconforming Children, in which parents and siblings of children in transition relate their experiences. Maria Jose and Pam, for instance, talk about boys who longed to wear dresses, and Jeannine relates the hostile reactions to her son’s going to school in girls’ attire. All of the adults found acceptance of their children’s differences difficult but necessary, with one saying “You have to get over yourself, and get over your own fear.” In dealing with the reactions of other children, however, one interviewee suggests that kids take their cues from adults—when parents and teachers show acceptance, other students will fall in line. Recommended.

Video Librarian

These short documentaries created by award-winning producer and director Jonathan Skurnik would be excellent additions to collections in transgender studies, parenting, and child development. I’m Just Anneke (11 min.) and The Family Journey (14 min.) present an enthusiastic argument for acceptance and unconditional love of gender nonconforming children. These documentaries are especially welcome now, as parents of younger and younger children openly engage with issues of sexual orientation and gender identity.

I’m Just Anneke succeeds because it doesn’t try to generalize Anneke’s experiences or those of her family. It is simply a portrait of one 12-year-old who has dealt with depression since she was 4, social rejection since she was 10, and has just started a course of medication to suppress the hormones of adolescence. Her parents are unapologetically accepting of their child (“I don’t really get parents who don’t accept their kids”), and the filmmaker shows that they want to parent the whole child, not just focus on her gender identity: her mother says simply “The more we’ve dealt with… in a positive way the gender stuff, the better her mood has gotten.” The high point of this film is Anneke just being twelve and playing hockey, but she also has an opportunity to speak for herself. Anneke says she’s “in the middle of thinking about who I am,” which might be said for many 12-year-olds.

The Family Journey is a series of interviews with mothers, fathers, siblings, and Anneke, designed to encourage families to accept their gender nonconforming children. These families took varying paths of varying lengths to acceptance. Some recognized their child’s gender variance very early, and some have arranged programs in their child’s school to teach teachers and classmates about gender nonconforming children. The variety of gender identities in their children is a particular strength here – not all of their children have transitioned or intend to transition, and some say that transitioning isn’t necessarily the issue. As one mother says, “changing the binary gender system of these two strict boxes will benefit everyone.”

The reduced price for non-profits and home video makes it easy to recommend this DVD for all types of libraries as well as non-profit organizations and individuals.

Highly Recommended

Educational Media Reviews Online

I’m Just Anneke and The Family Journey, the first two short documentary films in the Youth and Gender Media Project exemplify key sociological concepts such as gender fluidity, adolescent development, and parenting nonconforming youth. I’m Just Anneke, winner of the Changemaker Award (2010), chronicles the path of a 12-year-old youth from Vancouver, British Columbia, for whom the onset of puberty has sparked a gender self-identity crisis. Much of Anneke’s gender fluid exploration occurs within the social context of the family, peers, school, and community. Despite external constraints, Anneke is resolved “to be true to herself and maintain a gender fluid identity that matches what she feels on the inside.” The film raises multiple considerations concerning the complexities of parenting a gender nonconforming adolescent.

The Family Journey provides intimate narratives from interviews with parents and siblings of gender fluid youth and teenagers. It is organized around three themes: challenges, acceptance, and celebration. Within this segment, family members detail the varying emotional consequences of grappling with gender ambiguity, practicing skillful parenting, and fostering supportive family and community dynamics. The film is consistently effective in engaging viewers and leads to provocative questioning around gender fluidity and social support systems.

I’m Just Anneke and The Family Journey could be put to good use in courses examining gender, sexuality, family, body and embodiment, sociology of children, health and social behavior, and introductory sociology, as well as youth and society. Though due to the wide variety of topics explored, these uses are not exhaustive. We focus next on how the films can effectively illustrate three significant sociological themes for teaching undergraduate students. They are gender fluidity, adolescent development, and parenting.

First, the films are superb and tangible examples of gender fluidity. Given the institutionalization of the binary gender order, this concept may be difficult for many undergraduate students to understand. Anneke’s story offers a stark contrast of how gender is expressed along a continuum: For example, Anneke states that “gay,” “lesbian,” and “trans” do not “fit.” She sees herself as “somewhere in the middle.” Anneke’s mother states that she wants her child to be “true to who she sees herself as being...gender fluid.” These two quotes highlight the empowerment of Anneke’s choice regarding self-identification as gender fluid.

Second, previous literature documents adolescence as a time period characterized by “trying on” and expressing identity. However, the case of Anneke illustrates that when adolescent development involves exploring gender identity along a continuum, pedagogical tools are sorely lacking (see Wentling et al. [2008] and Davis [2005] for exceptions). One of the unique contributions of these films is that they provide a point of reference for teaching about gender ambiguity and its consequences as part of the developmental process. For example, peer acceptance is a critical component of adolescent development necessary for healthy adjustment. Anneke’s struggles suggest a heightened vulnerability to chronic social rejection of peers who govern social interaction around gender. While the pressures of acceptance and inclusion for youth are germane to adolescent development, Anneke is symbolic of a new generation of young people who face greater distress navigating the journey of gender self-identity, presented identity, and perceived identity (see Lucal 1999:784) while simultaneously striving for peer acceptance.

Finally, the films raise key issues for parenting in the twenty-first century, which is arguably already formidable. For parents of children in transition, is gender identification necessary for skillful parenting? How will parents prepare gender nonconforming youth for the daily stressors of rejection as well as for the emotional vicissitudes at school and home? The films do not offer oversimplified solutions. Rather, parents share experiences, strength and hope. First, parents reveal that it is difficult to parent skillfully without a point of reference. For example, one parent affirms: “I didn’t even know how to look on the internet, if I wanted to do an internet search,” showing the daunting task of parenting without adequate resources. Second, parents indicate that raising a gender fluid youth requires a significant investment of time and energy, “There is a lot of work to get everything lined up to make this transition as successful as it possibly can be.” Third, parents may face isolation and rejection within neighborhood, extended family, and community, as illustrated by one mother of a child in transition, “it’s you against the rest of the world.” While the films do not fully explore the long-term consequences regarding gender fluidity, adolescent development, and parenting a nonconforming youth across the life course, they do an extraordinary job of introducing these concepts.

I’m Just Anneke and The Family Journey address topics that are under-explored and socially emergent. One of their distinct contributions is providing of a point of reference for parents and educators who lack a knowledge base regarding youth in transition. Further, they equip viewers with vocabulary, “real life” experiences, and eye-opening insights to enrich teaching any undergraduate course in sociology.

Teaching Sociology

As an Assistant Superintendent of a school district that has just begun the work of understanding and supporting our gender-expansive youth, Jonathan's films have had a profound impact. The honesty in the documentaries leaves an impression on everyone who views them. You cannot help but come away from these films humbled by the courage of the kids who must live their lives authentically and inspired by the love and support of family members and advocates that are so critical to the kids' happiness and resiliency. We have purchased these films for all of our schools and are hosting viewings to begin the conversation about gender, gender identity, and gender expression with teachers, administrators, staff, parents and students. These films are accessible to those who already identify as allies, as well as to those who are seeking to understand the different journeys our children take.  Thank you Jonathan for your work!

Dr. Kelly King, Assistant Superintendent, Glendale Unified School District
Director's Commentary: 

I was a gender nonconforming child who loved to play with both dollhouses and Hot Wheels, wear pants and dresses. Like any child, I wanted it all! Around second grade, I started to get teased and bullied for my “sissy” ways and decided to give up “girly” things in order to evade the harassment that I intuitively knew would only get worse as I grew older. But this also meant that I abandoned an important part of myself.

In the early 2000s I began to read about children who were gender creative and transgender and were living in communities that supported them. These children and their families were doing what my community hadn’t been able to do when I was a child. As a social change filmmaker, I wanted to document and help grow the movement that embraces rather than suppresses children with gender expansive identities.

In 2007, I began work on a film that eventually turned into the Youth & Gender Media Project, a series of short films about gender expansive young people and their families and communities. I’m happy to say that the films have screened in festivals around the world and are being used in hundreds of middle schools, high schools and colleges throughout North America to help make the world safe for youth of any and all manifestations of gender identity and expression.