Love After War: Saving Love, Saving Lives

Injured veterans and their romantic partners winning the battle for love.
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57 mins
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Love After War delves deep into the intimate lives of injured veterans and their romantic partners. It is a story of coming home and sexual healing. The accounts illustrate how each faces the challenges of disability and musters up the courage beyond what was needed for war to restore connection.

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I applaud the filmmakers for shedding light on this sensitive, yet highly relevant, subject. This film highlights the hope that lies beyond the visible and invisible wounds of war.
Lt. Gen. (Ret.) Mike Linnington
CEO, Wounded Warrior Project


Love After War: Saving Love, Saving Lives is a story of injured veterans, true love, physical and emotional pain, coming home, and sexual healing. This feature-length documentary tells the stories of five couples in which at least one of the partners has sustained an injury during active duty. In four of our couples, one partner has suffered catastrophic, combat-related injuries. For one of the couples, both partners have suffered injuries in the military. Two of the veterans were young and single when they sustained their injuries; two were partnered and married each other; two were married (one of those were newlyweds). In each case, these young men and women volunteered to defend their country and came home to realize their physical and psychological trauma has affected their intimate lives.

The documentary delves deep into their emotional and physical intimate lives and the journey from being sexually devastated to happily in love in-the-face-of their physical and psychological wounds. The stories are painful, but viewers will witness how they are winning their personal battles for love. Each couple expresses their hope that their story will help future wounded warriors. These couples have exhibited sexual resiliency in the face of grievous combat-related injuries on their journey to restoring emotional openness and physical closeness.


LOVE AFTER WAR takes a hard topic that people don't like to talk about and normalizes it.
Lee Woodruff
Author of In an Instant: A Family's Journey of Love and Healing
Love After War is a groundbreaking study of sex and sexuality in disabled veterans....Love After War is incredibly unique. Having seen many documentaries focused on sexology, I can confidently say it blows others out of the water.
J. Zimmerman
Video Librarian
Throughout the documentary, Tepper himself dispenses calm, encouraging advice on overcoming these challenges, directing his advice at both veterans and spouses as well as health care providers who may be reticent about raising such issues with their patients. The latter especially may find this documentary a positive, sensitive example of the kind of honest discussion of sexual issues needed.
Educational Media Reviews Online
A must-see for everyone who wants to honor the men and women who serve our country...and help them find their way - all the way - home.

Dr. Barbara Van Dahlen
Former Executive Director PREVENTS Task Force; Founder, Give an Hour
This is an excellent video that brings attention to a topic many of us rarely consider-the relationships and sexuality of veterans…If you are a provider that works with veterans, a veteran or if your partner is a veteran, this is an important resource to expand your appreciation of military service on sexuality.
Marcalee Alexander, MD
Past President Academy of Spinal Cord Injury Professionals
An incredible testament to the courage of our warriors and their families. Touched my heart, will have to watch again.
Dr. Eduardo Duran
Veteran, Psychologist, and Author “Healing the Soul Wound: Counseling with American Indians and Other Native People"
While super-relevant to people with disabilities and their partners, the frank and open sharing is enlightening and informative to all audiences. The full-on injection of raw humanity — shared with a purpose to make lives more full and pleasurable — is an essential element of addressing disability and sexuality.

Steve Wright
Reviewer for United Spinal Association, "Love After War Documentary Film – Candid and Expert Storytelling About Disability, Intimacy, Sexuality and Compassion"
Offers realistic hope for active-duty servicemembers and veterans who have returned home with physical and/or psychological health challenges that are creating difficulties in their intimate lives.
Steve Wright
Reviewer for United Spinal Association, "Love After War Documentary Film – Candid and Expert Storytelling About Disability, Intimacy, Sexuality and Compassion"
This is an incredibly important film that will facilitate successful reintegration into society and family life.
Dr. Daniel N. Watter
Past-President, The Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR)
Love After War is such a needed resource. Intimacy enhances our self-worth, and combats feelings of loneliness and isolation. Our injured vets need and deserve these experiences!
Dr. Marianne Brandon
Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist & Author
We all want to live sexually healthy lives. It’s no different for injured vets and their partners. Love After War provides vital role models for our wounded heroes and essential education for doctors and caregivers.

Dr. Alan Altman
Past President of the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), Author, “Making Love the Way We Used to…or Better”
A powerful and moving documentary that sheds light on the often overlooked challenges faced by veterans and their partners...The film’s emphasis on the emotional dimensions of recovery and rehabilitation, particularly in the context of relationships and intimacy, underscores the far-reaching impact of military service on veterans and their families...One of the film’s remarkable achievements is its ability to resonate with a diverse audience...What distinguishes this documentary is the filmmaker’s unwavering commitment to forging a supportive community around it. This inclusive approach engages viewers, medical practitioners, support personnel, and military leaders, showcasing a dedicated effort to foster open dialogue and mutual support...
Erica Marsh
Manager, Southeast Region, Travis Manion Foundation, Sexuality and Disability

Director Commentary

Based on my experience as a sexologist with a disability specializing in sexuality and disability, I was invited to present at the Coalition to Salute America’s Heroes 2006 Road to Recovery Conference and Tribute for wounded Veterans and their families. At the time the headlines read that failed intimate relationships were the leading cause of suicide in the military. Also, a major research report on marriage in the military concluded that service members who return from deployment with a serious mental or physical disability experience more marital stress and divorce than their non-disabled peers. After presenting at just one conference, I was hooked on working with injured Veterans. Participants were hungry for knowledge and support as no one had addressed intimacy issues in their rehabilitation. Then in 2009 I was invited to submit a chapter to an anthology, Hidden Battles on Unseen Fronts: Stories of American Soldiers with Traumatic Brain Injuries and PTSD. I was thinking of calling it Making Love After Making War. I asked the editors to share all the soldiers’ stories with me so I would have a solid basis for my chapter. Unfortunately, there were no stories that had relationships with happy endings. I ended up writing a chapter titled The Battle for Love. However, I had met Veteran couples over the years who have restored emotional closeness and physical intimacy despite significant physical and psychological challenges. I thought it was important to share their stories to offer realistic hope to the hundreds-of-thousands of single and partnered veterans with PTSD, traumatic brain injury, and other catastrophic injuries who are still fighting the battle for love. My intention for making Love After War is also for the film to provide a voice bringing a vital issue into the national conversation, to serve as an educational tool for medical providers, and, through a companion website, be the nucleus of a community for those in need of help.

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